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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-12-09 06:47 am
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the surgery to-do list

Dr. Funnyname? Scheduled.
Dental cleaning? Scheduled. Gosh, their office staff is busy.
Bill? Paid. Yeah, that's the largest wire transfer I've ever sent, and the biggest one I ever hope to send. I figured that waiting a month would get me lest than ten bucks in interest, and it's worth it to me not to have to think about it.

To do:
  • Lodging. Got recommendations from the Sculptor's office.
  • Ground transpo for the day of surgery. This is through the Sculptor's office.
  • Plane tickets, in coordination with Dancer. I offered to pay hers, but she... did not accept.
My name is Logistica, Queen of Details. Look upon my works, ye mighty! Or something.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-12-07 09:06 am

a light rail journey to exotic Federal Way, WA

First a preface. I've written here several times about going up Aurora Ave., AKA State Road 99. It's a thirty-mile strip of car culture hell that extends from not quite downtown Seattle north into Snohomish County. It's basically a long, narrow blight zone that'll make anyone with any esthetic sensibility at all want to stick forks in their eyes.

But what if the stores were bigger and the place looked less seedy, as I've heard Aurora did fifty or sixty years ago? What you would have then is Federal Way, WA, about eight miles south of SEA airport, which is in turn well south of Seattle.

Sure, it isn't as soul-crushing as Aurora, but why even go there*? Because as of yesterday it's the end of the line for Sound Transit light rail's 1 line! That's right, three bucks and an hour get you from Seattle's U District all the way to Federal Way.

Assuming, of course, that some fool driving on Rainier Ave., the longer of the two at-grade sections of the 1-line, doesn't get in a wreck. I spent half an hour at Sodo looking around at my fellow passengers, texting the Tickler to let them know I'd be late for dinner, and wondering what was going on later at the Monkey Loft a few blocks away. Those at-grade sections, by the way, are the reason we can't automate our light rail as Vancouver did theirs. If I were Imperatrix Mundi they'd be elevated or, better, in cut-and-cover tunnels, and the NIMBYs would get mulched.

But! Onward and southward eventually to three new stations: Kent/Des Moines**, which is one block from Highline College. College kids are transit users, so the location of that station is absolutely correct. The next station is Star Lake; I hadn't known Star Lake existed until I read about the new stations. I guess they had to put a station somewhere.

And then Federal Way, where they put the station on the western edge of an agglomeration of big box stores and strip malls. The urbanist in me wishes they'd put it in the middle, but Sound Transit built a parking garage for the station. I can think of two reasons for this: we can expect Federal Way to be the end of the line for a long time, and it's so damn sprawly out there that suburbanites are justified in clinging to their cars for the last few miles. The sensible place for a parking garage is in a less crowded spot right next to I-5, right where it is.

Indeed, even before this latest extension, much of the 1 line's route at the northern and southern ends hugged I-5. It was probably the easiest place to get the rights of way; I know that's why there's no light rail on Aurora.

Is there new housing in Federal Way within walking distance of the station? Yup. Sanity comes to the suburbs, bit by bit.

How long did it take the Tickler to drive from their place in Tacoma to pick me up? Twenty-two minutes, baby. The drive from their place to mine is nearly ninety minutes in early evening traffic.

But! What's actually in Federal Way? Strip malls! Including one about fifteen blocks from the train station where nearly every business is Korean, including about half a dozen restaurants. The Tickler had done their homework and selected one for us named Moobongri. Not fancy, and not barbecue***, with Korean balads on the TV, but all about the tasty noodle soups. I wasn't brave enough to order the pork blood sausage, but the Tickler was. It's a bit chewy, so they ended up eating extra banchan. Would nom again, or would nom again at any of the gazillion neighboring restaurants. Ironically, parking is a bit tight there, so carpool.

But that was the early evening. What about the rest of the evening? I ended up taking the train to the bus to Ballard, where I shook my booty to a lady DJ named Leira and Riz Rollins. Lovely choonz but I went home at midnight because I'd woken up early and my third cup of caffeine was wearing off.

Fun fact: this has been a booze-free weekend by accident. I admit to feeling a lot perkier than I usually do on Sunday morning.



*Ms. Zappy's office was there. That's the only reason I'm familiar with the place.
**I had a friend who lived in Des Moines long ago. Pity she isn't still in this area.
***Korean barbecue really calls for a party of at least four. It's big food.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-12-06 12:23 pm
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recovery restriction

Says the Sculptor's office, no bike helmet for three months after surgery because it would put pressure on my forehead. Therefore, no bike. More than the liquid diet, the sleeping on my back, and the pain, this is what bums me out. You all know about my relationship with Miss Indigo Bike, right?

They'll give me a special headband so I can wear my glasses. I'm OK with that. Temporarily looking funky is something I don't mind much.

Oh by the way, they answered my mail about recovery on a Saturday. It so wasn't urgent. They're hardcore.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-12-06 07:13 am
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yin and yang, early December edition

Bad: waking up at 0400...
Good: ...after having fallen asleep around 2030.

Bad: not mustering the energy to go out last night...
Good: ...while it's so windy out that power outages were likely.

Bad: having a long to-do list...
Good: ...that I'm being organized and proactive about and has FFS at the end of it.

Oh, and I have plans for later today for which there is no down side. Consider that a teaser.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-12-04 06:57 pm
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The Sculptor hands me a to-do list.

I got email this afternoon from the Sculptor's office detailing what all I need to get done before surgery, and when. They told me about it during my office visit, but it remains impressive:
  • A physical exam & EKG from my primary care doc less than 30 days prior to surgery.
  • A dental cleaning less than 30 days prior to surgery. Irony: my next cleaning is scheduled during my recovery in San Francisco anyway.
  • Some lab tests, to be done March 30th, 2026. Yes, they gave me the exact date.
  • Ground transportation. The cost is included in what I'm paying the Sculptor, but I still have to arrange it. And it's for me alone; no one gets to come with me.
  • Speaking of cost, I owe them the balance by Jan. 28th. I think I'll let that sit in my account to accrue some interest for a few weeks.
They sent me request forms for the labs and ground transpo, plus a letter for my PCP and wire transfer instructions. It's all very organized.

This is significantly more than I had to do before either the previous work on my face or my sex reassignment surgery. Mind you, I'm fifteen years older than I was for SRS, but still. I get the distinct impression that the Sculptor is leaving less to chance than most. Maybe there's at least one interesting if not terrifying story as to why.

It occurs to me that this sort of thing isn't for anyone with poor executive function.

It also occurs to me that if I can't get cardiac or other clearance, you'll be able to hear the wail from Tacoma. Yes, I'll get my money back, but.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-12-03 04:56 pm
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Nun submits to SEAF!

No, that's not dirty.

I submitted (an image of) "Dysphoria Devil" to the Seattle Erotic Art Festival. Well, to the exhibition store anyway; I chickened out of submitting to the actual exhibition. I have two prints ready to go. If both sell, I'll get a whopping $36. If not, I have to pick them up, which is going to be a problem because...

...I belatedly realized that SEAF happens less than a week after I'm supposed to have surgery on my face. It is to laugh. I may be designating someone to pick them up, or better in my opinion, donating them to SEAF. I know the latter is an option because a print that I really wanted last year got donated by an artist and snatched up by a volunteer before I could buy it.

Calling "Dysphoria Devil" erotic is stretching things a bit. It's about what it's like to be trans, and I hope to Goddess that nobody takes it as a fetishization of trans women, because that isn't how I meant it. But what it really means is out of my hands once other people see it.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-11-30 07:55 am
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Nun savors a schadenfreude sandwich.

I went to the Mercury briefly last night, briefly because I started yawning even before 2300, even with a nap and extra caffeine yesterday. I spread the news about my impending surgery, natch.

But what really got my attention was [personal profile] jengalicious's ex, who arrived alone. Nobody even spoke to him that I saw. Sure, I've been coming alone to the Merc for twenty-three years, but I always find someone to talk to. If this becomes a trend I may dance a stompy or spider-plucking jig. Dude, have you tried not being a terrible person? It's a choice.

Oh: Frankie & Jo's oatnog flavor – vegan "ice cream", if you'll recall – is pretty great! Ah luv me some egg nog, and this is the kind I could share with, for example, the Tickler.
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Denise ([staff profile] denise) wrote in [site community profile] dw_news2025-11-30 02:42 am

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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-11-29 07:44 am
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It's tough all over.

I spent a couple of hours yesterday at the annual Buy Nothing Day gathering at the home of my grad school classmates E & G. Yes, they're doing all right aside from G's back, but:
  • Their kid hasn't launched.
  • E has noticed that the younger generation is facing hurdles that would be ridiculous if they weren't enraging.
  • E observes that the job market, even in the tech industry, is ass. Welcome to America, nerds.
Yeah, all those bullet points sound awfully familiar. Aside from being a transgender lesbian sadomasochist, I'm them. On the one hand, it feels good not to be alone. On the other, damn, I wish things were going better for them.

There was a table full of young trans adults. That's right: E & G have at least one trans kid. I wish I could claim responsibility, but I haven't been in their lives enough for that. Good on E & G for being decent about it.

Classmate L's son, who was dubbed the Widget right around the time of his birth, is over 30 with a kid of his own. How does this keep happening? Yeah, I know how it happens, but you know what I mean. L's ex, who also went to school with all of us, has been all over the local raver & Burner events for years. I resisted the temptation to mention him.

Oh: there was one dude there who I thought had done something absolutely unforgivable long ago. I need to find out what is, or was, up. Luckily, E proposed coffee.

Got my early evening date cancelled due to date's illness. Le sigh. Did not go out because, honestly, I didn't feel like it. I'm not adjusting well to the cold & dark this year.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-11-27 06:40 pm
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what to do with a long weekend

I have slept for eleven out of the last twenty-four hours, and now that I think about it, thirteen out of the last thirty hours. I mean, I haven't been staying up really late or getting up really early since last week. What's going on?

Edited to add: no happy lamp today because I slept well past sunrise. Also, I've only had one cup of tea today. Gosh, that may explain everything.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-11-26 12:37 pm
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ravey vicissitudes

I hit the Blue Moon for another open decks night, and it was a very mixed bag: either excellent or couldn't-wait-for-it-to-end, nothing mediocre. Ah well, you get what you pay for, which in the strict sense of cover is zero in this case. (Yeah, I always get at least one beer because I want the night to stick around.)

There are only two regular open decks nights in the whole city, the aforementioned and one just south of town in White Center. Brit Jean, the promoter at the Blue Moon, proudly points out that hers is at least twice a month. The other is only monthly.

I may be indulging in (even?) more bleepy goodness than usual in the next month or two: a favorite venue is about to get demolished for redevelopment. Brit uses it a lot, but she seems to be taking everything in stride. She points out that it's a minor miracle that it lasted as long as it did.

Very much looking forward to a long weekend starting in four and a half hours. Sleep, outings, and Shin Black ramen with seitan.