intense sympathies. thank you for raising my blood pressure to 'working strength' so early in the morning. i have had similar fears, but had already turned off the robo-option, thank you oh non-existent deities. but back to the main point. your mom is easily hurt, whether it's for her own benefit or not, it's true. the only solution i can think of, and it might be too late is, "ohmigod, virus virus, yanking personal information on to the web, aiie". ok, that's not too honest and probably fantasyland as well. the honest air-clearing method would probably involve truthful phrases such as 'could not feed my own child, savings down to nothing while my employer kept feeding me excuses'. if she cannot empathize with you, playing the 'mama' card is low beyond description. i'd advise a public, 'journal being shut down' post and a private only posting policy for a time. um, best of luck.